New kid on the block, Tantric Healing Therapy (ThT), is a contemporary approach to tantric massage, with a mission to help men achieve a healthy and fulfilling sex life. Most men will be affected by sexual issues at some point in their lives. The NHS estimates that at least 10% of men experience difficulties during sex. Tantric healing bodywork can help you get to the root causes of sexual issues, both physical and emotional, making way for greater enjoyment and deeper connection during intimacy.
Kate Elena, Tantric Healing Therapy practitioner, explains how therapeutic tantric massage can help to improve your love life in 10 major ways:
Tantric massage treatment for erectile dysfunction
Do you have difficulty getting and maintaining an erection? There are alternatives to Viagra! Erectile dysfunction can be treated using specialist Tantric and Taoist (ancient Indian and Chinese) bodywork techniques, which focus on removing sedimentation of capillaries in the pelvic area and improving blood flow to the genitals. These techniques are also beneficial for premature ejaculation (PE), which can be caused by physical blockages in the pelvic area. Both of these conditions can be caused by psychological factors such as stress and anxiety, which we’ll look at later in this article.
Therapeutic prostate massage for a healthy, stress-free life
Day-to-day stress can result in low libido. A regular therapeutic prostate massage will help you let go of accumulated stress and tension (a factor for some people with erectile disfunction and premature ejaculation), and even repressed anger. Tantric healing massage can also help treat conditions such as prostatitis, testicle pain, and assist you in maintaining a healthy prostate gland. Prostate cancer is now the third most fatal cancer in the UK, and second in the USA.
Last longer by separating orgasm and ejaculation
Tantric massage sessions can support you by teaching you how to separate orgasm and ejaculation. Why would you want to do this? In Tantric and Taoist traditions, men discovered that with practice they could have orgasms without releasing semen. Instead of being finished and depleted after ejaculation, they could move sexual (‘Jing-Chi’) energy throughout the body, have multiple orgasms, and journey for hours with their partner. These techniques are now a key part of tantric education, and are straightforward for anyone to learn.
Tantric massage offers new sensations
In today’s sedentary life, we can lose connection with our body, resulting in numbness and disassociation. These things can also be caused by trauma (see below). Tantric massage is never rushed, and designed to wake up the whole body, using various sensitizing techniques. It also activates subtle energetic pathways to allow sexual energy to flow beyond the genital area. Endorphins, serotonin and oxytocin (the brain’s natural ‘feel-good’ chemicals) will then be released in greater amounts during intimacy. There’s no need to take external substances such as alcohol or recreational drugs during sex. A sensitized body opens up a whole new horizon of sensuality.
Let go of the past
A key focus of Tantric healing sessions involves clearing out negative emotions that are trapped in the body’s cellular memory, which can affect our sex life and overall wellbeing. Memories of past experiences, such as relationship break-ups, accidents, sexual traumas and other difficult life events can spontaneously arise during the bodywork. The tantric therapist will create a safe and loving space for difficult memories and emotions to be felt and released. Letting go of these negative memories and emotions makes way for more positivity and pleasure, not just during sex, but in our life as a whole.
Get to know your body
There’s a tantric saying that when you can be intimate with yourself (emotionally as well as physically), then you can truly be intimate with another person. Tantric healing sessions and lingam massages will help you to come into deeper connection with yourself, your body, and to love and accept it as it is. There’s also essential learning about consent and boundaries that you can apply your intimate relationships: how to express what you enjoy and what you’re not comfortable with. All this can make intimacy much more enjoyable for you and your partner.
Tantric healing for sexual abuse
The US–based non-profit organisation, 1in6, estimates that 1 in 6 men have been sexually assaulted, but many cases go unreported. I regularly work with men who’ve experienced significant sexual or physical abuse in the past. This can have a profound impact on intimacy, including erectile dysfunction, and numbness or disassociation from the physical body. Whilst talking therapy is often essential for sexual abuse survivors, tantric massage can offer a safe, and caring space to work with trauma stored in the body, especially in the genital area.
Tantra helps you to connect from the heart
Tantric healing is ultimately about helping people to connect deeply and authentically from the heart. In life, we quite often build barriers to protect ourselves, because of past events or situations where we got hurt. My sessions have a particular focus on helping men to heal and open the heart, and to trust love again.
Enjoy a long and happy life
Sexual energy isn’t just about enjoyment during love-making. It’s a potent energy that you can learn to cultivate and move throughout the whole body for life-long health and wellbeing. It’s been tried and tested over thousands of years by Tantric and Taoist male practitioners. As mentioned above, tantric healing work helps clients to remove emotional and physical blockages, making way for positive sexual energy to flow through the body. Taoist Master, Mantak Chia, is one of the foremost teachers of ancient sexual practices for men in the West. His best seller, The Multi-orgasmic Man is a recommended read, with scientific evidence and practical exercises to support men with developing and maintaining a healthy (sex) life into old age.
Time to talk with Tantric Healing Therapy
Men don’t often get time or space to talk about personal, intimate things, especially sexual problems. Tantric massage sessions last between 4 to 5 hours, so this allows plenty of time for consultation before the bodywork begins. You can expect total confidentiality and a sympathetic ear. It’s a core principle in tantra that we accept everyone and judge no one.
Tantric Healing Therapy can be beneficial in many ways both for people looking for solutions to sexual issues, or those simply looking to expand their sexual potential. If you’re looking to surprise your present or future lover, learning tantric ways might be one of the best things for you both. Your partner is going to enjoy making love with you even more once you apply all these tantric teachings. They will deepen your connection and teach you how to be present with each other and slow down, so you can last for hours together.